Having an extra-marital affair

"It's marital disharmony that leads to extra-marital affairs. In arranged marriages, the spouses may not click, and look for options elsewhere. A liberal media and generally more openness with the opposite sex, such as colleagues, bring people closer emotionally and sexually."

Type of having an extra-marital affair
One night stand - This mostly happens unintentionally and may not necessarily be a sexual affair at all.  This kind of a chance encounter is probably the most survivable of all the extra-marital affairs.

Emotional outbreak affair - This generally happens when the marriage is experiencing problems and during those times one partner turns towards a friend or companion of the opposite sex for emotional help and comfort.

Emotional-Sexual Affair - This affair causes lot of heart break and problems because in such type of affair the unfaithful spouse not only gives the body but also the heart and there are slim chances of reunion.

Sexual addiction affair- Sexual Addicts use sex over and over again to numb inner pain and emptiness, much like alcoholics use alcohol. Among married people, men are sexual addicts more often than women. 

Reasons
Top reasons most frequently quoted for human infidelity and having extra marital affair include:

• In love with someone before marriage
• Falling in love with someone else
• To seek revenge.
• Variety is the spice of life
• Boredom
• No fear of public opinion or criticism
• Desire for emotional support and intimacy

Extra-marital affairs work for those who want that extra spice in their lives because sex is wilder and more exciting with a stranger but the most true fact is that Extra-marital affair is only for sex, not for companionship or mental stimulation and therefore these men and women who get into these stuffs are not just toying with their own moral values but also they are setting up and example to the younger generations to chose the same path.

Extra-marital affairs show that people have affairs with those they spend most time with: work colleagues for men and close friends for women. Most men are out at work all day - therefore likely to meet woman at work. Younger ladies are at home with kids/work part time so are more likely to meet someone closer to home.

Having an extra-marital affair works because both husbands and wives are not open to discuss about sex and pleasure either it is an arranged or love marriage. Performing sex is an art and it comes with exploring and experience.Both of them expects to get it fulfill by non verbal conversation. 

Marriage is an institution which explains to remain faithful with each other and there is nothing exciting or extraordinary pleasure in extra marital affair.It is my own opinion that both husband and wife should speak freely about sex and perform well by affection and love.

Many, who are prone to experimenting, do it guilt-free as long as they're meeting "responsibilities" in the domestic space but the fact is desire for extra-marital partner is natural one and this desire is common both for men and women. However, sexual desire for multiple partners is one feeling humans are still struggling to shrug off from our beastly nature.

They are two different traits. Further, A women as well does not like a man who is womanizer and involved in infidelity. She better like one who give her respect, dignity, and support and does not make her as prostitute. Our hostile mentality would not see any good thing. Males maybe polygamous by nature but they are not animals, they need to have a strong will power and self-control to lead a happy and contented married life.

Most of our Cultural norms are derived from Victorian English standards that forced others to a life of misery yet amongst their own cohorts practised philandering,sexual libertarian values. Only now in our Country, middle age and youth and the old have a sense of open sensuality ,up and down, higher class or lower class a sense of common desire to promote love.

Many (I should say most) married women who have extra marital affairs have them because they cannot connect with their husbands and feel emotionally distant with them. Women are as adulterous or more adulterous than men. All those men having affairs are not having them with sixteen year old virgins. 

They mostly have them with other married men. It only appears that men are more adulterous because women are better than them in hiding their affairs. its not that women have affair because of the emotional equation but the reason is quite simpler, today's women are promiscuous enough to explore the sexual desires.

Importance of Social media

Everyone know the importance of the Social media which is also become a most important part of our lives as our mobile phone. It is designed to bring  people together but it can sometimes drive them apart. 

Social media become a way to feel your freedom and provides a  way to express yourself. As we know, Social media is the collective of online communications channels dedicated to community-based input, interaction, content-sharing and collaboration. it is bringing people closer. To that extent it is as per anticipation. But coming closer to some people may necessitate separation from existing companions.
Social media the best way to gain traffic is to run a series of promotion through social media. Best website to do this is on Facebook; make sure you will involve your website to your promotions, games, challenges and etc. to make sure that you can gain a lot of traffic.
Social media is a place where people socially interact with each other, they share their thoughts and their contents. There are many social media sites available where you can make your fiends or join specific community.

Advantages of social networking

There are lots of advantages of social networking such as -

• Worldwide Connectivity

This is the best feature of social networking, no matter if you are searching for that former college roommate, your first grade teacher, or an international friend, there is no easier or faster way to make a connection than via the social network. 

These connections can help one with a variety of things such as:

• Finding romance
• Seeking a new job
• Locating assistance
• Getting and giving product and service referrals
• Receiving support from like-minded individuals
• Making or receiving advice on career or personal issues
• Commonality of Interest

Real-Time Information Sharing
Many social networking sites incorporate an instant messaging feature, which means you can exchange information in real-time via a chat. This is a great feature for teachers to use to facilitate classroom discussions.

Business advantages of effective social media use include: Free Advertising
Whether you are non-profit organization who needs to get the word out about your upcoming fundraiser or a business owner marketing a new product or service, there's no better way to get your message in front of millions of people 24/7.

1. Compelling and relevant content will grab the attention of potential customers and increase brand visibility.
2. You can respond almost instantly to industry developments and become heard in your field.
3. It can be much cheaper than traditional advertising and promotional activities social content can indirectly boost links to website content by appearing in universal search results, improving search traffic and online sales you can deliver improved customer service and respond effectively to feedback.
4. Customers can find you through new channels, generating more leads.
5. Increased loyalty and advocacy from the customers you've connected with.

Disadvantages

If anything has some advantages then it should have some disadvantages and same is with Social Media Networks also 

1. Because you are going to lost some privacy 
2. You can face online bullying problem if someone post unkind or bad words against you. 
3. Some people also use fake profile and you never know about them and share your secretes to them. 
4. This is also consider as the time wasting by spending many hours on social networking.

Although social networking helps us to connect with new people, it has also impacted how people make friends these days. Instead of meeting face-to-face, people nowadays are happy to scroll through an endless list of bite-sized snippets of personal information, or interact through comments, or even chat with multiple people simultaneously.

Social networking really comes with lot of features so it's users are increasing day by day. The above detailed information regarding advantage and disadvantages written very well. Social network played a major role in communication.

With so many modes of communication, we all feel that we are lucky but the ground reality is that we have become slaves to these modes.We are glued to one gadget or the other, round the clock. Even kids are not behind. Rather than playing outdoors, they are busy creating social network profiles. As we all are deeply engrossed in the social network, it has hampered personal bonds. With every advancing day, warmth and real connections are sinking.

According to my research on the Internet, 56% of the people on social media are addicted to Facebook. They might not be connected to loved ones in the real world. And, when it comes to mobiles, they are more important than anything else. 

 

However, to get rid from the shackles of slavery resulting from modern means, we need to wake up. A cell phone does not bring you close to people but takes you far away from the person sitting next to you! Today people prefer to text or call a person rather than going to meet them. This increases the distance between people and the device which was supposed to bring people close becomes the key factor that makes them un-social.

Live-in Relationship

"Live-in relationship has become acceptable norm in modern times and it is not a crime. But if a public figure has indulged in such relationship then exposing it is not wrong" 

Thoughts on the Live-in relationship

There are different thoughts on the Live-in relationship and people have different views on it such as 
1) Live in relationships has nothing to do with the character it's ones own personal choice and probably nobody has the right to comment on it!
2) Some people thought that "Live-in relationship" a way simple way for free sex with no responsibility is a cheap word to use.
3) Live-in relationship can be sustained only when the parties involved have evolved true love, affection and intellectual compatibility otherwise the relationship will be a short lived one.

4) We should learn to compromise/adjust in life to be together. When live in option gets legalized more people will take it as easy way to back off from the relationship which will not be good for the society in long run. Few people fail to be together in married life but at the same time many people take up the challenge and stay together always. Better for kids and healthy community.
5) Live-in may be acceptable and sound sexy. What about children born out of such stupid relationship where either parent is not committing? Children suffer and suffer life long.
6) Its better to live happily in a live-in relationship rather than be unhappy in a boring and painful arranged marriage ....but yes, those who want children should get married if they want to have children as in a country like India even love marriage is frowned upon...a kid born out of wedlock would have a hard time here.. Live-ins are perfect for modern, busy couples who have no time for children.
7) Live-in relationship destroys the moral fabric of society. . . It takes u closer to shamelessness and kills ur conscience without u ever realizing it. . . Indeed, the time is not far when utter immorality shall become the order of the day and what's deemed obnoxious and base, will become rampant and routine practices.


Its not necessary to bend and curve laws according to demands of few elites who are not happy with their marriages....Otherwise apart from dellhi, mumbai & kolkatta chennai this has never been heard off.. We Indian will forever be slaves as our judges & judiciary are still influenced by English laws and Indian love to copy paste..and Britisher laugh at you slaves all the time the country which was enslaved by handful ppl and ppl r still ignorant and love money.

Live-in Relationship impacts in India?

A marriage is a mutual relationship of grown ups...and live in relationship is of 21-24 years old..want some escape ...98% there is a breakup in live in relationship. ..because its not backed by families nor a ceremony...let me explain it in simple words...Krishna and Radha is an example of live in relationship and Krishna and Rukmani were long lasting couples.

Somebody answer me when Krishna was so in love with Radha, why he didn't married her? why he went for Rukmani for marriage and all your doubts will be cleared. There are lessons to be learned by everyone. Some learns by making mistakes and some learns by other mistakes and some by understanding concept and deep logics.

This is the first step to destroy religion culture & family in India, eventually these western gadder will turn our society like Europe where mom & dad will live in old home, there will be few families & those will be broken even, every child will turn in to donkey or dog. If you live in a society you have some duty like that society also take care of you. ''Love without responsibility is a great sin'' and that is Indian Culture, which means if you love someone you must give him her the right to have a family and children of you and you must give them a family which need a social status. 

This is the norm of a civilized society, west may have super sonic speed but they don't have trust in their relationship, we don't want that kind of life. We need science and prosperity but not at the cost of our society & family which are priceless like air water and earth. Living in the west I learned it, what you are learning only from hearing about west? Loving country means loving culture loving elders cause culture comes from them, which means their teachings. You can build a Skyscrapers on the debris of your elders grave stone but you won't be able to show your kids who are their elders and what are their identity. It's like you won't have a name anymore, rather only a number from now on. What would be the kids surname or family name from now on?

Our Generation also had these opportunities. We also studied outside our hometowns. We were a lot more "free-n-fun" types than today's yet we knew where to draw the line. We brought name and respect to our Nation.
Today we are settled with families and kids going to schools and colleges. We guided our younger ones to their success. We take care of our aged parents and contribute to our societies. Learn the success formula and live happily.

Population is burgeoning and resources are scarce. Those who want to enjoy living with a woman (or man) but do not want kids, should be free to do so. Live in relationship is suitable for that, and good for society in the long run. But if kids are born, then it is something serious.

Character is defined by the way you treat your partner, if you don't cheat on him or her you are not characterless at all. And as long as two persons are in love and wants to live with each other there is no wrong in it. I dont find any reason to involve character in it, but if someone is living with other than his or her partner and without the consent of partner then of course someone can be termed as characterless.

What does matter for us?

I don't mind live in relationships as long as people are not behaving like beasts and using Live In Relationships as an easy way to have sex with multiple partners as per their wish, stay in Live In Relationship or Marriage what really matters is commitment, otherwise in marriages too people can do adultery but the thing is in marriage you will get punished for adultery and in Live In you will not, Live In Relationships will totally depend on Commitment, if there is no Commitment then I have no respect for it and that kinds of relationship will do damage the society!!

Trust your Intuition

“You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won't happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.” ― Joel Osteen

Yes forget the bad time and start building a better future step by step, 

Chinese proverb...."a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step ".

You will find happiness and success. If you do, you'll still be disappointed; you'll never get anywhere and you ‘are sorry for the rest of your life. Try to move by "moving on". And moving on should always be forward. Look straight ahead and a brighter future is smiling bright on you.

FEAR is the biggest for people; you give it to God, put your faith and trust in God, move forward as God wants us to do. This is where we learn and become the better person, and what a weight that is taken off. Life is like adventure sometime good things happen sometime bad but we learn something from it keep on moving looking for bright future.

We deserve Happiness in our Breaths

One thing always keeps in our mind to feel happiness in our breaths : 

"In case you are feeling down, 

here is a bucketful of sunshine 

to brighten your day!!!"

We know that the sun is the main source of energy in our earth to survive the lives for every living being. Apart of this, Sunshine brightens our world, our minds and souls also and we trust that it is God's greatest gift to mankind! 

Every new day comes with new hopes and happiness and it is your choice to treat it like as your best day or your bad day because there is always sun after the rain and everyone needs just the bucketful sunshine to feel them delightful. 

Feeling like Life is Hell not a good solution for your problems or whatever you have. You need to see the things in the positive manner or understand them to handle them very delicately because in this way, you will be capable to prove your ability to the world.

Remember - Your thoughts will be changed according to your actions and drive your life also. To enjoy your every breath then you need to trust on –

Keep looking up, keep moving forward, No storm lasts forever.

You will get through. You will look back and be amazed at what you see…

Your strength, your courage, and

your determination are much greater than you could have ever imagined.

How to determine, every storms in your life in an easy way, even how to handle easily the people's negative thoughts & attitude. With the best determination and be courageous you will move forward with success! 

Memories also play a very important role in our lives because they spent together with live ones are like a web it, keep on growing into a bigger web and the joy and happiness remain forever and get stock in the mind to last forevermore.

You believe this with all of your heart that money can buy you possessions but memories with the ones you love are priceless. Make efforts to spend time with your love ones and share the beautiful memories always because it is memorable that can't be carried nor it can be overwrite by other.

Yes, it's so true to deserve Happiness in Your Life, surround yourself with those that you love, and who in return love you. Leave everlasting memories for them to remember you bye, when you are no longer around, and even if you were!!!

Love close knit families because they sure know how to make a real effort to be together and therefore reminisce about the grandparents and great grandparents so the history of the family is passed on and talk about their future plans and just the part that they enjoy each other’s company. 

All things happen in our lives have memories and they are the chapters we have that can’t be forgotten. So, making memories has to be a joint effort. It cannot be one-sided. 

We all have freedom you just got to own on it. The best freedom is being yourself and doing what you like is freedom and you'll enjoy life without pretense.

Your heart will feel lighter when you let go to bring a brighter tomorrow and a new day to bring new things, sometimes they are even better than what you let go of and don't waste any more time than you already have. Life goes fast and Time heals all wounds. Just focus on yourself and where you want to be.

It is also so true as we never stop learning no matter how old we get there is always something new or something we resent but we are only human and that is why we learn from our mistakes and learn to forgive and forget and try and move forward without holding on to the past as only today is what really matters!

In some cases it would have been better to stay ignorant of some of them but it is what it is good and all. Accept to be accepted, love all to be loved for a happy life.

So, this is your life and your decision to move your life to deserve happiness in your breaths and in every situation because journey of a life is learning and we have tests to pass so move on Enjoy life.

Trust on your journey with someone

From the beginning of our lives, we heard a lot of stories from best wishers but most of them are based on the love, patience, understanding, honesty, loyalty and trust for each others. This is the main reason that we always try to find out a very special person having all the best qualities to make our life awesome. This is the most common thing which is applicable to everyone.

We need to share our thoughts to our best friend and I think there is no need to define a true bond of the friendship between two people! correct?

For me, I would definitely love to share this with my spouse and trusting my journey with her. Our love, patience, understanding, honesty, loyalty and trust for each other are strong enough to make this journey with her the most happiest, loving and caring relationship that I ever had with God always there helping us both...love her a lot!!!!

We know that the journey and life path has changed and is changing as we grow as a person and learn each day because its hard to pick only one people to sharing this loveliness with; when so many have served and important role in where we are today. 

It doesn't a matter; how far away we are from one another; love still keeps us close. This is the trust of our lives. 

For Best Friends
In life, we have friends who need gentle reminders sometimes who never give up even though they keep going through one loss after another but they remain strong and we manage to lean on each on each other for our journey. We have been through bad times & good times together. But throughout all of the times, we were always there for each other no matter what. We have seen each other down & we have seen each other come up.

I have seen the most trust able bonds between best friends, couples, grandmother and grand daughters, siblings and neighbors also. 

Sometimes a true bond is also discovered in pan pals also. It's the most amazing things that how does world change person to person. The main reason is, we are kindred spirits and our life journey paths definitely crossed for a reason we know now. 

In a long distance relationship,  this journey has to keep going on with trust, so that none of us gives up. 

I would like to share that just trust on your life and be the very special for someone having love, patience, understanding, honesty, loyalty and trust.

Forget yesterday - It has already forgotten you

Yesterday, I was checking  me email. I got an email from a very famous group which has the following lines -

"Forget yesterday - It has already forgotten you.
 Don't sweat tomorrow - you haven't even met.
 Instead, Open your eyes and your heart to a truly precious gift - Today"

-Steve Maraboli

I was very impressed with these lines because we always worries for our future and what we did in our past. These are very common things for every human beings.

So, I'm here to add my views on the above thought. We heard "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, that is why it is called the present" from the starting of the journey of our lives. But I would like to added one thing here and that is we learned a lot from our yesterday (Past) and try to avoid those mistakes in our future and present also.

If I say about yesterday then we aware of the true fact that we gained the knowledge from the past (Experience is the best teacher) and apply the simple rules in our lives. Agree? that why we say and belive that the past is gone and we cant change it but we can change today and tomorrow because things and problems are not new for us. 

To forget the mistakes of the past and to press on to the greater achievements of the future. To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature that you meet. To give so much time to improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world not in loud word but in great deeds. 

To live in the faith that the whole world is on your side, so long as you are true to the best that is in you.To forget the mistakes of the past and to press on to the greater achievements of the future. To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature that you meet. 

To give so much time to improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world not in loud word but in great deeds.

 

Trust Your Journey

“Live life for the moment because everything else is uncertain!”
– Louis Tomlinson

In our life, you will always meet with two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed.

But this is your life and you are the manager of your life and everything depends on you and how do you react with the things. It is very much true about your thoughts and  applicable while trusting and doing the best you can. Another thing is absolutely TRUE for your life and nobody can promised it for tomorrow. It's my opinion to trust on your every action and this is the most important part of your journey.

Whenever and whatever life gives you. It is your own things to understand the basics of your life which is most important till the last breath of your life. So, accept all the things which life gives you happily. 

Sometimes, When Life Sucks The Life Out Of You, It's Extremely Difficult To Trust Anything or Anyone!!! Most difficult situation but trust your journey of your life. Things always changed day by day so don't need to be more panic about the things. 

Neither, you are the first one who is facing this kind of the situation nor you will be the last one. Just happy whatever you have.

We know that the world would be a very difficult place to survive but from the beginning of our journey, we have families, friends and relatives also. They always support us in every situations.

No waste. Everything works together for good to those that love Him and are called according to His purpose. I have to trust the Lord-not the journey-don't understand but it says His ways are not our ways and we must be aware of the destroyer's deception and lies. 

I just remember my great grand father ! And what he said frequently 'whatever happened is for the good' And may be that is what proclaimed GEETHA ' everything happens in the right time as pre destined.

At the end you come up with a good result and lesson you have learned! The biggest mistake you will ever do is losing those people who were worth in your life . Money can earn, Sex can gain, Things can buy but not a real person very hard and rare! 

Sometimes I wish the lessons could be easier or clearly show us the right road to follow. A heart that's hurting doesn't always listen clearly. 

“Your journey has molded you for your greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be. Don't think you've lost time. There is no short-cutting to life. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time.”
― Asha Tyson